By misunderstanding

One of the worst ways to become upset (and sometimes the most embarrassing) is through misunderstanding. Quickly jumping to:

I’ve been cheated!
I’ve been insulted!
I’ve been robbed!

If these feelings are followed by the realization: no you actually were not … then we’ve caused ourselves emotional distress all for nothing.

Clarity first. Then calm consideration.

What happened here? Was I wronged? Have I been injured in some way?

If the answer is yes, then feel what you feel.

But still: clarity first.